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Battling Wits – How to Conquer Difficult People Self Improvement

Battling wits sometimes turn into anger. During a heated moment as two people argue what they are, really doing is battling wits immaturely. If you want to conquer difficult people that make you angry, the key is to avoid joining in on the person’s battling wit moments of heated words. Fighting fire with fire will only lead to first, second and third degree burns.

One thing you want to keep in mind while working to conquer difficult people is to never, negotiate with excellence. As you move toward achieving your goals in life, you need to help these people see that each of you spending time arguing is only setting both of you back from reaching your objectives in life. Helping the person appreciate time wasted is time you could never get back is smart while dealing with difficult people.

Battling wits with difficult people should cultivate qualities that will leave the difficult person arguing with self. It is always wise to walk away if a person fails to listen to reason. Sometimes silence is the master of difficult people. If you see, a situation and nothing you say makes sense to the listener, just listen, and agree in areas that make sense. Silence can make the person give up and find someone else to argue with.

My son is one of those difficult people in life. No matter what I say, even if it is true, unless he says it, the answer is never right. He is a royal pain in the butt, yet if I spent every waking moment giving into his irrational thinking while arguing with him there would be two losers in a single home. I won’t bend. If I believe in something then I will back it with evidence regardless of what anyone thinks.

One of the best solutions while dealing with problems is to understand the problem itself, and the person behind the problem. For instance, my son has paranoid schizophrenia, psychosis, and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), which makes it difficult for him to see things in full light. One of the best ways to deal with him is to use assertiveness and let him know that disrespecting me is something I will not tolerate. I enforce the rules of respect. I will not take second best at any time.

The golden rule in conquering difficult people is to avoid taking second best. In other words, you want to confront the difficult person, rather than allowing him/her to make you feel less than equal to the person.

A person battling wits, arguing, pushing, annoying, and so on is only trying to drag you down with him. Don’t let this happen. You want to break down the problem so that you can see it in full light. As well, you will need to section off the problem so that you can pinpoint the true issue. As you move along you can search for answers and resolves by asking questions. Research your mind to review areas of your life where similar problems developed and look back at how you dealt with that problem. You can also consider the consequences of your decisions.