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Table of Contents
Foreword
Chapter 1:
Why We Say Yes When We Want to Say No
Chapter 2:
When to Say Yes
Chapter 3:
When to Say No
Chapter 4:
The Dangers of Saying Yes Too Much
Chapter 5:
The Pitfalls of Saying No Too Much
Chapter 6:
Striking the Balance between Saying Yes and Saying No
Chapter 7:
Agreeing Elegantly—
Ensuring You Do Not Come Across as Too Desperate
Chapter 8:
Refusing Politely—
Ensuring There Are No Hurt Feelings
Wrapping Up
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Chapter 1:
Why We Say Yes When We Want to Say No
There are a lot of situations where we end up saying yes when we actually want to say no. We do such a thing and then we rue what we have done. In most cases, you cannot go back and renege on your promise. So, you are faced with a situation where you have to do something that you do not want to do, and you have to do it within a particular timeframe, which makes the issue more difficult.
So, why do we do that? Why do we end up saying yes when we should actually have refused something outright?
It is our inborn tendencies that make us do that. There are several reasons why we end up agreeing to everything that comes our way. Maybe it is the need for appreciation, or maybe it is our greed that makes us think that we can do everything that is offered to us. There are so many different reasons why this may happen, but the end result is usually always the same. It makes us feel miserable for having agreed to do what we didn’t want to.
In this chapter, we shall probe into the various reasons that make us accept things as a sort of a reflex action. We shall see why it is our inherent nature to agree to things, and why refusing takes some bit of effort. We will also see how to analyze a particular request that comes our way in such a manner that we can understand whether the best answer for that would be an acceptance or a denial.
Why We Say Yes When We Want to Say No
In life, some things do not make sense. The best explanation that one can give for this is that that is how God wanted it to be. One of these things is saying yes and saying no. Most of us often find ourselves between a rock and a hard place since we find it very difficult to tell somebody no. We opt to say yes even when we are completely sure that we cannot achieve whatever it is we have promised. This can be termed as an ailment that should be dealt with immediately. The first step in dealing with it is knowing exactly why we find ourselves doing this. Here are some of the probable reasons.
Saying Yes Needs No Justification
To start with, most of us avoid giving explanations. Normally, after you say no it is only right that you try and give an explanation for doing that. Reasons such as “I will be busy” come in handy at such a time. This is exactly what most of us tend to avoid when we say yes. To some, this comes about knowingly while others just find themselves doing it unknowingly. You will find that in such cases, one says yes for the sake of saying byes but ends up messing him or herself up.
Saying Yes Creates a Positive Impression… at Least Temporarily
The other reason why saying yes is so easy unlike saying no is the urge to be liked. Deep inside, each and every one of us lies some kind of urge to be liked by those around us; it is just our nature. This urge to be liked leads us to doing some deeds that benefits others but increases stress on us. As a matter of fact, this is the main reason why saying yes tends to be easier. You can find a situation where someone has a meeting to go to in the evening, but they will miss the meeting in order to take the neighbor’s child for a movie. The main reason for this is the deep urge to be liked by the neighbor. Unless we overcome this urge, saying yes will always seem far much easier as compared to doing the right thing; saying no.
We Are Too Mellow Inside
The most common reason is that most of us are too soft hearted. In that case, once someone puts in some flattery in his or her request we have no option but to foolishly follow. This is common between people of the opposite sex. Several phrases always work their magic. A good example is “no one can do it better than you” or “I do not know what I would do without you”. Once someone of the opposite sex uses such phrases when asking for a favor, most of us and especially the weak at heart, say yes without even giving it a second thought. Such behavior never augers well.
There are a number of other reasons that force us into easily accepting to say yes when the correct answer is no. Overall, it is wise to stay strong and stand by what you believe. Do not be easily influenced by those around you.
Chapter 2:
When to Say Yes
The truth of the matter is that we agree a lot more than we should. We accept a lot more things than we can realistically fulfill. This leads to health and mental problems, and may even end up giving us a bad name in the process. When we are not able to finish the jobs that are set in front of us, we might simply not be able to tackle them all with the finesse we want to do. If you accept too many things in your line of work, then this is something that can jeopardize your prospects in an insane manner.
We need to learn when to say yes. Naturally, accepting everything is something that has to be avoided, but we cannot deny everything also. We have to take up things.
This chapter speaks about what you can say yes to within a realistic and pragmatic boundary. You should say yes to things that work for you, that are advantageous to you and that fall within the rulebook you have made for yourself in life.
Read on to know what you can say yes to, without compromising on yourself in the least manner.
When to Say Yes
Saying yes too much can end up having some pitfalls. These pitfalls will depend on the situation that the yes answer is being given. Since many situations vary, the pitfalls will also vary. One main situation that can cause someone to get some undesirable results when they say yes is when they are being offered some help. In the event that a person is in a situation that they need help, sometimes people tend to offer help. This might be because the person has so much pride such that they cannot be able to know when to ask for help.
However, when they decide to accept the help that is being offered, the person who is offering the help might decide to continue giving the help. However, they might reach a point that they get tired and decide to stop offering help. The best way to know how to say yes to somebody will be through following certain steps. The steps will have to be followed in order for one to know the right time to say yes and the right time to say no.
The first thing that should be done is an evaluation of the reason why they have to make a decision. You might find that a person will want some financial help from you. When this happens, you can decide to agree or to disagree. You can agree by looking at the situation in a thorough manner. The first thing that you should ask yourself is if you are able to offer the help that is needed. For example, if someone wants a certain amount of money and you have it, you can easily say yes. But before you say yes, you should look at the person who is asking you for the money. They may be an addict and therefore will use the money for the wrong reasons. If this is the case, you should avoid giving them money.
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